The Secret Of Life

I saw this on a friends facebook page the otherday and realised that this is a piece of advice I give to so so so many friends but have never ever taken myself. Stupid in hind sight isn't it really??

I am aware of my faults, I have forgiven myself for a lot of the things that I have done wrong when I have realised why and how I can change them, and even sought the forgiveness of some of the people involved. Some have responded well adn we are friends again others listened and we called it quits on the friendship and finally some I had hurt so much. From this I learned that no matter what I can't carry their issues as well as my own into the future, they have to deal with those themselves. Ok when I caused hurt and heartbreak I was in the wrong BUT the ones who where violent and abusive in a mental and physical way IT WAS NEVER EVER MY FAULT!!!!!!! For that I refuse to be responsible, I didn't curl your fist to strike me, I didn't make you scream and yell in my face so close you where spitting on me nor did I deserve the broken bones for your pathetic given reasons. So no I refuse to live in the past with your crap...I want to step forward and just deal with the day and not drag that luggage with me!!

The nature of BP is destructive either in thought, action or deeds from ALL of your life. Unless you are prepared to deal with them, face them and banish them forever they will never go and you cant begin to heal. I can't allow their fetid poison to ruin my life, they combine with my already jumbled mind at times of crisis and feed my illness. Some of these issues may seem easy to resolve but once you scratch the surface you begin to unravel a snarled ball of conflicting emotions, and these are the true hidden issues that need to be dealt with. In my opinion BP isn't just a mental illness caused by brain chemical imbalances or trauma or a combination of other ilnesses....it is a total breakdown of the emotional coping mechanisms of the brain whether THAT comes from trauma or the lack of certain chemicals. Our emotions are cultivated from the day we are born when we truely do exist moment to moment if you break it down to basics...one moment we are content and asleep, another we are hungry and finally we feel wet and uncomfortable, each of those are a moment in time.

Soo dealing with emotions has to come into the forefront of being dealt with, being giving the tools and inderstanding the tools to help you to cope in future. This is OUR DAY AT A TIME.....coping, progressing a little and never ever giving up.